2 June 2015

A is for... Asking for it.




It's one of the hardest and yet sexiest things to do... be made to ask for a punishment. You know you've done wrong, you know you're about to 'get it', and yet you're still put in the position where you have to swallow hard, bite your lip, and actually ask for what you're about to receive. 




"P-please may I be punished, Sir?" 



All the other aspects of discipline aside; the waiting, the scolding, the Look your Dominant gives you when you've been naughty... even the receiving of punishment itself - nothing makes me feel as submissive, as ashamed, as small as when I'm made to ask for it.

Some might argue that it's a consent issue - and for some people that may be the case. But for me, it has nothing to do with that. He will spank me anyway, regardless of whether I ask him to or not. (He'll just likely do it harder, or for longer, or both, if I don't.) 

No, for me it's not a consent thing, it's all about the headspace. If I've done something bad and I'm about to pay the piper, having to ask for my spanking/belting/caning/strapping puts me into a better emotional place to receive it. To work through my guilt. To atone.

Atonement. Damn, now that would have been a good word for 'A'. Ah well, next time.

Having said that, what are your thoughts on having to ask for a spanking? Please feel free to comment and hop on over to the next blog taking part. 

~ Tabby x

8 comments:

  1. It's sooooo hard. I've only had to do this once, and like you said it is unbelievably difficult. I was trembling, heart racing, and I swore I stuttered. I'm hoping I won't have to do it again--but knowing me, I bet I will. Great Post

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    1. Haha awww... your comment made me feel bad for you but excited at the same time. Perfect description of what it feels like, thank you!

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  2. Asking for it in general is tricky for me. My Master has been focused recently on me asking specifically for what I want sexually. Ugh, I swear every submissive bone in me protests- "But He's supposed to decide." Strangely, if we "did punishment" and He made me ask for a spanking etc, I believe I'd have an easier time.

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    1. That's very interesting... also to note that you've never had to ask for a punishment but instead for specific desires. I like it, thanks so much for sharing.

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  3. Asking for it is extremely hard, but it really does put the head in the right place for it, I agree. If you ask for it, you're showing not only atonement but acceptance of his authority to discipline as well as your acceptance to receive the punishment. Great post!

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    1. That is *exactly* what I was trying to say... so glad it came through and that you agree! Thanks for the comment. ;)

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  4. Great post! Asking is sooo hard. Great A topic.

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